8 things you need to know about dating older women
It's not just celebrities like Madonna and Jennifer Lopez, who know the merits of dating a young man. Intergenerational relations are no longer socially prohibited and are springing up everywhere. But what can men expect if they find love with an older woman? Here are eight things you need to know.
1. Children
Unfortunately, we all know that the older she gets, the less chance she is likely to conceive. If you find love with an older woman and want to have children in the future, do not ignore the problem. You need to be realistic about your prospects for success and think about options like IVF treatment and adoption. If you have not considered children, remember that it may be in her mind and may put additional pressure on the relationship.
Similarly, there is a big chance that she will have her own child. A new potential partner needs to know that she comes as part of the package. Although the prospect of a ready family can have its appeal, it is important for you to be realistic about how it will affect your life. Children will obviously limit spontaneity and add new responsibilities. Sometimes you will find you are not your primary priority. This is not a problem but it is important that before you find love, you know what's coming and make sure it's a future you want.
2. Sex
The good news is that women have sex after life than men, so you can be in perfect sync. But, if you are used to younger, less experienced women, you might be surprised. Be prepared for her to tell you exactly what she wants and how she wants it. You may have to give up some control but that could be a good thing.
The power of the will
If she has some relationship under the belt and has experienced difficult times, she probably would not want a man to tell her what to do. So, if you feel more comfortable dominating in a relationship, expect a challenge. But if you are looking for someone to say what she thinks and collaborate in decision making, she is the one for you.
4. Social references
For you, Bob Geldof is Pixie's father; To her, he is the lead singer of The Boomtown Rats. Although the difference can be laughable - "When I first work, you're still in school!" - People use references from the past to express themselves in the present, so if you do not get it, it can be very annoying to both of you.
5. Money
There are many different scenarios here. An elderly woman who has never had children can be at the top of her career, so be prepared for the potential ego damage if you contribute much less. Similarly, if she focuses on raising a family and has been out of the workplace for some time, she will not have a solid income stream. If you are ready to make a financial commitment, as well as affection, this is not a problem, but be realistic about how this will affect your future and your responsibilities.
6. Health
Obviously, the older you are, the more likely you are to be sick so remember that this will affect your role as her partner. Also, if she is between 45 and 55, she may be approaching menopause. It can affect moods and emotions - can lead to depression, anxiety and memory problems, among other symptoms. Again, be prepared for the future that can hold.
7. A blow
Please note that not every older woman wants to have a long relationship. She can only look for an eager and a seemingly unattended young man will fit her life perfectly. So, if you are pursuing something more, then this woman may not be for you. But if you are looking for something simpler, she can be perfect. Either way, it's best to set what you want before you join.
8. She knows your game
Watch out - if she has had some relationship in the past, she will be wise with your tricks. She hears all the lines and will be able to see through your behavior. So you will not be able to get away with being anything other than genuine. If your intentions are good, however, this will not be a problem. She will appreciate you for who you are
